There are several helpful apps available to assist in co-parent communication. Some apps include:

• Talking Parents
• Our Family Wizard

While these are helpful in many ways, we encourage parents to learn the proven Conflict Influencer communication skills, which will help parents gain confidence and feel empowered in all communications (digital and NON digital).

Examples of harassment in co-parenting include:

• Violating court orders;
• Driving by the other parent's house;
• Interfering in the other parent's parenting time repeatedly;
• Sending massive amounts of text messages, or emails, etc.

If you are experiencing any of the above scenarios, you may be experiencing a high conflict co-parenting situation. 

Similarly, examples of unhealthy co-parenting include:

• Interfering in the other parent's parenting time;
• Violating court orders;
• Bad-mouthing the other parent in front of the kids;
• Turning the kids against the other parent; 
• Talking about the court case or the other parent's parenting in front of the kids;
• Withholding information from the other parent;
• Not allowing kids to experience positive times with the other parent.

If you are experiencing any of the above scenarios, you may be experiencing a high conflict co-parenting situation. 

Dealing with a hostile, high conflict co-parent can be a terribly stressful situation. In addition to seeking resources for high conflict management, you can learn everything you can about how to do the opposite of what you feel like doing and what you're used to doing. We call this training and strategic work moving from React Brain to Think Brain.

In our courses and coaching, you'll learn to use EAR Statements to calm your high conflict co-parent and shift the conversation out of conflict and into problem-solving.

You will also learn how to set limits to protect yourself and your peace.

Similarly to dealing with a hostile co-parent, you'll learn to think and act differently to manage the high conflict situation.

Tactics you can use include the:

• BiffB4Send;
• CalmB4Think;
• ProposalB4Agreements;
• and StopB4Engaging

Just to name a few!

High conflict co-parents have repeating patterns of unmanaged emotions, extreme behaviors, and all-or-nothing thinking.

They also repeatedly blame their co-parent for everything, creating lots of chaos and controversy.

Sometimes, but not always, a high conflict co-parent engages in domestic violence. Some may make false allegations of child abuse, child sexual abuse or domestic violence against the other parent. Others lie about the other parent in other ways. Some engage in parental alienation, which is turning the child against the other parent.

When dealing with a high conflict co-parent, setting healthy boundaries is a must, because these high conflict people don't stop themselves.

You can learn to set boundaries with a high conflict co-parent by sticking to the Parenting Plan (or other court orders) and by creating structure and routine. The SLIC Solutions (Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences) method we teach at Conflict Influencer helps co-parents learn to set limits and impose consequences.

Remember, high conflict people don't stop themselves. As a co-parent, you can set and enforce boundaries by:

• Sticking to the Parenting Plan (or other court orders)
• And by creating structure and routine.

A Conflict Influencer technique many of our co-parents find beneficial is the SLIC Solutions method (Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences). This helps you learn to set limits and impose consequences.

Narcissistic high conflict co-parents are driven by a desire to win. They want to be seen as superior and powerful, and fear feeling inferior.

When a high conflict fco-parent puts you down, remind yourself to not take it personally and that it's not about you.

Then, you can impose SLIC Solutions by Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences, as we teach in our Conflict Influencer courses and coaching. This technique is one you can return to again and again throughout your co-parenting life.

To resolve (and manage) conflict with your co-parent, you can:

• Learn not to take the behavior of your co-parent personally
• Use BiffB4Send (BIFF Responses) in messages (emails, texts, social media, co-parenting apps)
• Use CalmB4Think for verbal communication
• Set LimitsB4Consequences to set healthy limits
• Use ProposalsB4Agreements for reaching agreements to avoid arguments
• Use a Parenting Coordinator to help resolve conflicts

As a last resort, you can also use court.