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This is one of the most worthwhile courses for those navigating the often challenging environment of blended families.
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"As a step parent you often feel helpless as to how you can support your family best during these high-conflict situations, this course gives you the tools and strategies to confidently communicate for yourself and support your whole family in doing the same. In fact, the skills learned in this course are great communication tools for life in general and translate well with anyone to your kids, co-workers or even with each other. I loved the time and energy Megan gives in presenting this content, so that you leave having tried it out, with feedback, before using it in real life high-conflict situations. I have learned so many new and lifelong skills from the Conflict Influencer course and am thankful for the small piece of freedom this has gained back in our family life. I would highly recommend it to anyone who is a step parent and/or parent, traversing a high-conflict blended family environment, and seeking an easier and less stressful way forward."
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If you're struggling with your co-parent, family, friends or work colleagues this course is for you!
"Megan's course has made a significant impact on my ability to handle various interpersonal situations effectively. Learning to de-escalate tensions, write clearly, respond thoughtfully, propose solutions, and make requests in a diplomatic manner transformed how I navigate both personal and professional interactions.
By keeping interactions brief, informative, friendly, and firm, I've not only reduced stress but also fostered more productive exchanges. This approach has helped in minimizing misunderstandings, streamlining communication, and ultimately finding constructive paths forward. Megan's Conflict Influencer course has been so beneficial to me in multiple aspects of life!"
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We used a proposal (even after an extremely abusive message), ignored the nasty and simply replied with a proposal as we learned in your Conflict Influencer class, and it worked!ย
"My husband was elated as it saw him get 5 precious extra hours for his birthday with his little girl. Thank you!"
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I went from gearing up for court (ready with my lawyer), to mediation, to dinner with my entire family.ย
"The skills I've taken from the books, the online courses and hands on training in this Conflict Influencer class are invaluable. I now have the confidence that I have the missing peace that can turn things around for my marriage and my family's future."
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By completing this class I get life long support from the community so I won't feel alone in this long and hard journey!
"This highly practical class is beyond my expectation. I got immediate results by using a variety of skills learned in class. The classmates were diverse including court professional, custodial and non custodial parents, & stepparents so I gained diverse perspectives."
High-Conflictย Co-Parenting FAQs
WHAT IS THE BEST CO-PARENTING APP FOR HIGH-CONFLICT?
There are several helpful apps available to assist in co-parent communication. Some apps include:
- Talking Parents
- Our Family Wizard
While these are helpful in many ways, we encourage parents to learn the proven Conflict Influencer communication skills, which will help parents gain confidence and feel empowered in all communications (digital and NON digital).
What is considered harassment in co-parenting?
Examples of harassment in co-parenting include:
- Violating court orders;
- Driving by the other parent's house;
- Interfering in the other parent's parenting time repeatedly;
- Sending massive amounts of text messages, or emails, etc.
If you are experiencing any of the above scenarios, you may be experiencing a high conflict co-parenting situation.ย
What is unhealthy co-parenting?
Similarly, examples of unhealthy co-parenting include:
- Interfering in the other parent's parenting time;
- Violating court orders;
- Bad-mouthing the other parent in front of the kids;
- Turning the kids against the other parent;ย
- Talking about the court case or the other parent's parenting in front of the kids;
- Withholding information from the other parent;
- Not allowing kids to experience positive times with the other parent.
If you are experiencing any of the above scenarios, you may be experiencing a high conflict co-parenting situation.ย
How do you deal with a hostile co-parent?
Dealing with a hostile, high conflict co-parent can be a terribly stressful situation. In addition to seeking resources for high conflict management, you can learn everything you can about how to do the opposite of what you feel like doing and what you're used to doing. We call this training and strategic work moving from React Brain to Think Brain.
In our courses and coaching, you'll learn to use EAR Statements to calm your high conflict co-parent and shift the conversation out of conflict and into problem-solving.
You will also learn how to set limits to protect yourself and your peace.
How do you respond to a toxic co-parent?
Similarly to dealing with a hostile co-parent, you'll learn to think and act differently to manage the high conflict situation.
Tactics you can use include the:
- BiffB4Send;
- CalmB4Think;
- ProposalB4Agreements;
- and StopB4Engaging
Just to name a few!
What is a high-conflict co-parent?
High conflict co-parents have repeating patterns of unmanaged emotions, extreme behaviors, and all-or-nothing thinking.
They also repeatedly blame their co-parent for everything, creating lots of chaos and controversy.
Sometimes, but not always, a high conflict co-parent engages in domestic violence. Some may make false allegations of child abuse, child sexual abuse or domestic violence against the other parent. Others lie about the other parent in other ways. Some engage in parental alienation, which is turning the child against the other parent.
How to set boundaries with a high-conflict co-parent?
When dealing with a high conflict co-parent, setting healthy boundaries is a must, because these high conflict people don't stop themselves.
You can learn to set boundaries with a high conflict co-parent by sticking to the Parenting Plan (or other court orders) and by creating structure and routine. The SLIC Solutions (Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences) method we teach at Conflict Influencer helps co-parents learn to set limits and impose consequences.
How to set boundaries with a narcissistic co-parent?
Remember, high conflict people don't stop themselves. As a co-parent, you can set and enforce boundaries by:
- Sticking to the Parenting Plan (or other court orders)
- And by creating structure and routine.
A Conflict Influencer technique many of our co-parents find beneficial is the SLIC Solutions method (Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences). This helpsย you learn to set limits and impose consequences.
How to set boundaries with a narcissistic co-parent?
Narcissistic high conflict co-parents are driven by a desire to win. They want to be seen as superior and powerful, and fear feeling inferior.
When a high conflict fco-parent puts you down, remind yourself to not take it personally and that it's not about you.
Then, you can impose SLIC Solutions by Setting Limits & Imposing Consequences, as we teach in our Conflict Influencer courses and coaching. This technique is one you can return to again and again throughout your co-parenting life.
How do you resolve conflict with co-parenting?
To resolve (and manage) conflict with your co-parent, you can:
- Learn not to take the behavior of your co-parent personally
- Use BiffB4Send (BIFF Responses) in messages (emails, texts, social media, co-parenting apps)
- Use CalmB4Think for verbal communication
- Set LimitsB4Consequences to set healthy limits
- Use ProposalsB4Agreements for reaching agreements to avoid arguments
- Use a Parenting Coordinator to help resolve conflicts
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As a last resort, you can also use court.
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